Everyone's growth looks different

Is it just me or do you always expect a lot from yourself too? The past couple of weeks I have been putting pressure on myself to keep consistent with the blog posts and posting on the Instagram account. It’s actually harder than I thought! Especially when there’s 101 other things going on too. I know you need to be consistent & engaging to grow, but your girl needs a break time to time! Plus, I'd rather make sure I'm taking my time to write decent posts instead of rushing and posting something i'm not happy with.

Also, i'm not asking anyone to take a step back from working towards their goals, i'm just saying move at a pace you're comfortable with and don't let any pressures get to you. Don't feel like you've got to move quick just because others might be.

I've also been feeling like some of my recent posts have been lacking my personality. But when you’re trying to be real, it’s kind of hard to be funny because you don’t want it to look like you’re taking the mick. (FYI, I’m not saying I’m funny, I own other great qualities too – Some would call this being cocky, but I call it self-love)

Anyways, back to the point. I started reading other people's blogs and started making comparisons but then I questioned, why am I doing this? End of the day, they are them and I am me. Don’t get me wrong, it's good to be critical as it can lead to improvement, but never let it affect your self-esteem and bring you down. You are more than good enough.

Whenever I post a new blog, I find myself constantly looking at my phone, refreshing the page every five seconds to see how many people have read the post. I wasn’t getting the same response as I was in the beginning and I'd see the number of views decline overtime. I would feel a bit disappointed and assume people had lost interest or didn't like the content. This would make me question whether my posts are good enough. I see so many similar accounts with a greater following, more content and therefore probably more readers, so I’d tell myself I need to be doing a lot more so I can be where they are. This all came down to the pressure of social media. Apparently, the amount of followers, views or likes you have determines your success. (This is false info btw, quality > quantity!!)

But then, I reminded myself of my goal. The main reason I am doing this is to share good vibes and hopefully inspire at least one person. Of course I would love to spread positivity on a bigger platform, but I have literally just started. I need to give myself more credit for taking the first step and creating vibeswithvids after so long of wanting to and keeping up with it as much as I have so far. This comes back to what I spoke about in my self-love post, as humans, we always focus on the negatives and not the positives. But this needs to stop, POSITIVITY IS EVERYTHING. Give yourself credit for everything you achieve, small or big, it does not matter. If you got out of bed early today, good for you sis!!

I know that having a greater following gives you more presence, but it should not decide how well you are doing. From the small following that I have, I am so grateful for each and every one of them and if just one person is inspired, I'd be more than happy. People may think this isn’t aiming big, but it is my dream and not theirs. It can be so easy to get carried away about how well others are doing, but they are not you. This is YOUR journey to success. We all have different aims in life, and different ways of getting there. It doesn’t matter how fast or slow, the point is you will achieve your goals. Like I said, move at your own pace and don’t let society get in the way.

Just another FYI, I’m not asking for any sympathy, nor is it a way to get more views. It is simply a small reminder for anyone who has started, or wants to start something, to keep going and not let the pressure of social media affect them. Whatever the aim is, remember you are doing it for yourself too. And if you want to take a mental break or just have time to yourself, that is fine. You are doing the best you can, and you are doing amazingly.

Everyone starts from nothing, but eventually, that nothing becomes something. So many actors/actresses were homeless, and now they are living their dream. Don’t expect big things straightaway, as growth doesn’t happen overnight. But continue working hard towards your goals and never give up. Most importantly, don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Everyone’s growth looks different.

Lots of love,

V x

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